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Often when we set goals, we inadvertently set ourselves up for failure before we even begin! “But that doesn’t make sense”, you might say. And you’re right. It doesn’t.
Still, in our haste to have it all, we all-too-often set goals that have no basis in reality. And that’s where the trouble begins before we even get off the ground.
Goal-setting is a necessary part of the process for anyone who is striving to achieve more and better things in their life. Realistic dreaming is the precursor to effective goal-setting. Let me explain…
The entire purpose of a goal is to accomplish something that is bigger, better, or more advanced in some way than what you have now, or where you’re at now. To set a goal that is too big, though, creates negativity at the onset, because it’s likely to overwhelm you right away. A goal that seems unattainable may very well be.
Or, it may simply be that you need smaller interim goals as guideposts along the way.
Dreaming realistically sets the tone for the big goals. A bigger home, expensive car, personal bests in any area of your life – those are the big goals, the end-all-be-all. The ultimate prize.
But instead of only dreaming of the big stuff, allow yourself to have some goals that come after the initial start, but before the ultimate finish.
So, if you set a goal to lose 100 pounds, and that’s the big, ultimate accomplishment, set guideposts for 10 pounds, 20 pounds, 50…you get the idea.
Going from zero to 100 seems like it will take a lifetime. Going from zero to 10, on your way to 100, sets up a much more realistic and attainable scenario.
Realistic dreaming isn’t negatively stating to yourself that you “can’t accomplish a goal that big”, or that “you’ll never be able to do that”. Rather, realistic dreaming is starting from the beginning with logical, realistic smaller goals that will help you to take the action you need to take to achieve the big end goal, while enjoying and learning from the process, as well.
And don’t forget to reward the small goals you reach along the way. Small successes turn into big achievements, so they shouldn’t be downplayed. In fact, just the opposite – even the small successes should be celebrated big time!
Start your goal-setting from the very beginning with realistic dreaming, and you’ll find that you reach your end goals easier, and you enjoy the process that much more.